Tovah Petra Coaching

In a world filled with fast-paced achievements and hushed emotions, Tovah Petra coaching approach to Somatica Healing stands as a beacon for those seeking true connection and self-discovery. Through her transformative intimacy coaching, individuals embark on a journey of authenticity and self-love. Tovah's approach goes beyond conventional norms, guiding clients to explore and embrace their core desires. This isn't just about relationships; it's about crafting a unique formula for profound connections and a sex life that resonates with the individual, free from external expectations.

Amidst Tovah's coaching, the significance of attachment styles in shaping relationships is unveiled. It's not merely about understanding oneself but becoming a safe haven for others to express, set boundaries, and foster connections founded on respect. Tovah's coaching delves into embodiment, encouraging a felt sense of home in one's body—a foundation for deeper intimacy and better understanding and expressing emotions. From identifying boundaries to using conflict as a tool for intimacy, Tovah's coaching is a holistic journey toward self-empowerment and genuine connection. Tovah Petra's coaching promises a transformative experience where all aspects of you are seen, acknowledged, honored, and celebrated, paving the way to lasting self-worth, secure love, and inner peace.

As a Trauma-Informed Somatica Trained Sex & Intimacy Coach, I support people to experience pleasure through their bodies and help reduce barriers and noise from their heads. When it comes to developing relationship skills, there is no better way than to practice with another person. I will create a safe, caring, patient environment for you to learn practical tools for intimacy.

What is the Somatica Method?

The Somatica® Method is a holistic, loving, and systematic approach to intimacy and relationship coaching.

Somatica Coaching is founded on the belief that the most efficient and effective way to transform shame and fully blossom into yourself is through pleasure. It invites people to move beyond shame, clarify their needs and boundaries, and live emotionally connected and erotically embodied lives.

It prioritizes the experience of joy and satisfaction to build deep intimacy and authentic relationships.

Who Can Benefit?

Somatic Sex and Relationship Therapy can benefit individuals and couples looking to improve their relationship with themselves and their partners. It’s effective for those wanting to overcome issues like shame, low self-esteem, body image concerns, past sexual trauma, intimacy challenges, or difficulty expressing desires and needs. Additionally, it’s useful for those who want to break free from patterns of people-pleasing or co-dependency.

The Goal

The ultimate aim of Somatic Sex and Relationship Therapy is to empower individuals to live more authentic, connected lives by embracing their full range of emotions, sensations and desires. Through body-centered practices, they develop self-trust, healthy boundaries, and the ability to create satisfying, honest relationships.

What is Experiential Therapy?

In sessions with me, we have the option of entering into a "relationship lab" where you will have the opportunity to explore authentic and secure connection. We work together to create experiences that lead to joy, ease and pleasure in relationships and sex. Empathy, attunement and radical de-shamification are the keystones of my work. Traditional talk therapy has its merits, but it is limited to the realm of thoughts, concepts and words.

In my work, I encourage people to get out of the theory and get into the lived experience of fulfilling and powerful connection with others.

Intimate Connections Delve into intimacy within yourself and your relationships while learning how to communicate effectively.

Deepen Intimacy and Connection
Navigate Sexual Desire and Mismatched Libidos
Improve Communication and Resolve Conflicts
Master Dating and Seduction
Heal from Breakups and Transitions
Explore Relationship Design
Receive Marriage Coaching
Rekindle Lost Desire
Uncoupling and Separation Support

Self-Discovery Embark on a journey to better understand yourself, embrace your desires, and conquer personal challenges.

Release Fear around Relationships
Learn to Trust so that you can be in Relationship even though you’ve had Trauma
Boost Confidence and Overcome Performance Anxiety
Release Shame Around Sexuality
Sex Coaching for Women and Men
Preparation for Birth / Healing From Birth Experiences / Trauma / Postpartum Healing / Depression
Explore Self-Pleasure
Embrace Body Acceptance
Develop Sexual Wisdom, Knowledge, and Skills
Address Sexual Challenges (low desire, early ejaculation, ED, orgasm difficulties, pain during sex)

Pleasure Transformation Experience the power of pleasure and learn to communicate openly about intimacy in your relationships.

Unlock the Power of Sexual Pleasure
Build Sexual Confidence
Heal from Trauma
Understand / Set Boundaries and Practice Consent
Explore Fantasies
Discuss Desires
Support for People in Recovery from Addictions

Somatic Sex and Relationship Coaching can be beneficial for a wide range of individuals and couples. It’s especially helpful for people who struggle with issues related to intimacy, sexuality, body awareness, and emotional connection. Here are some specific groups and situations where Somatic Sex and Relationship Coaching might be particularly impactful:

1. People with a History of Trauma

Sexual or Physical Trauma: Those who have experienced sexual or physical abuse may carry deep-seated emotional and physical responses in their bodies that affect their ability to feel safe in intimate situations.
Emotional Trauma: People with histories of emotional abuse or neglect may struggle with trust, vulnerability, or connecting deeply with others.

2. Individuals with Body Image Issues

Those who feel disconnected from or ashamed of their bodies often find somatic therapy empowering, as it helps them build a positive relationship with their physical self and foster self-acceptance.

3. Couples Experiencing Sexual or Emotional Disconnection

For couples facing issues with intimacy, lack of desire, or communication, somatic therapy can help bridge gaps by allowing both partners to connect with their emotions, communicate openly, and understand each other’s needs and boundaries in a nonjudgmental way.

4. People Dealing with Sexual Shame or Guilt

Individuals who grew up in environments where sex was stigmatized or seen as shameful may have difficulty fully embracing their sexual selves. Somatic therapy can help them uncover and process these feelings, leading to greater comfort with their sexuality.

5. Individuals with Boundaries and Co-Dependency Issues

Somatic therapy is helpful for those who struggle to set boundaries or who fall into patterns of co-dependency, as it teaches self-awareness and the importance of honoring personal needs and limits.

6. People Seeking Authentic Connection

Those wanting deeper, more authentic connections may benefit from somatic work, as it encourages them to explore vulnerability, honesty, and presence within relationships.

7. Individuals Experiencing Difficulty with Desire and Arousal

People who struggle with low libido, difficulty experiencing arousal, or physical responses during intimacy can find somatic approaches beneficial. These methods help clients reconnect with sensation and desire, often uncovering underlying factors that impact arousal.

8. Those Working to Heal Relationship Patterns

Somatic therapy can help those who repeatedly experience negative relationship patterns, such as attracting unavailable partners, staying in unhealthy relationships, or struggling with jealousy. It allows individuals to understand these patterns at a body-based level and to develop new, healthier responses.

9. People Exploring Their Sexual Identity or Preferences

For individuals curious about their sexual identity, orientation, or preferences, somatic therapy provides a nonjudgmental space to explore desires, boundaries, and what genuinely feels right for them.

10. People on a Personal Growth Journey

Somatic therapy can be a powerful tool for anyone committed to self-discovery, authenticity, and growth. It helps individuals become more attuned to their inner worlds, empowering them to live more fulfilling, grounded lives.

As a Trauma-Informed Somatica Trained Sex & Intimacy Coach, I support people to experience pleasure through their bodies and help reduce barriers and noise from their heads. When it comes to developing relationship skills, there is no better way than to practice with another person. I will create a safe, caring, patient environment for you to learn practical tools for intimacy.

What is the Somatica Method?

The Somatica® Method is a holistic, loving, and systematic approach to intimacy and relationship coaching.

It prioritizes the experience of joy and satisfaction to build deep intimacy and authentic relationships.

Who Can Benefit?

The Goal

What is Experiential Therapy?
In sessions with me, we have the option of entering into a "relationship lab" where you will have the opportunity to explore authentic and secure connection. We work together to create experiences that lead to joy, ease and pleasure in relationships and sex. Empathy, attunement and radical de-shamification are the keystones of my work. Traditional talk therapy has its merits, but it is limited to the realm of thoughts, concepts and words.

In my work, I encourage people to get out of the theory and get into the lived experience of fulfilling and powerful connection with others.

Self-Discovery Embark on a journey to better understand yourself, embrace your desires, and conquer personal challenges.

Release Fear around Relationships
Learn to Trust so that you can be in Relationship even though you’ve had Trauma
Boost Confidence and Overcome Performance Anxiety
Release Shame Around Sexuality
Sex Coaching for Women and Men
Preparation for Birth / Healing From Birth Experiences / Trauma / Postpartum Healing / Depression
Explore Self-Pleasure
Embrace Body Acceptance
Develop Sexual Wisdom, Knowledge, and Skills
Address Sexual Challenges (low desire, early ejaculation, ED, orgasm difficulties, pain during sex)

Intimate Connections Delve into intimacy within yourself and your relationships while learning how to communicate effectively.

Deepen Intimacy and Connection
Navigate Sexual Desire and Mismatched Libidos
Improve Communication and Resolve Conflicts
Master Dating and Seduction
Heal from Breakups and Transitions
Explore Relationship Design
Receive Marriage Coaching
Rekindle Lost Desire
Uncoupling and Separation Support

Pleasure Transformation Experience the power of pleasure and learn to communicate openly about intimacy in your relationships.

Unlock the Power of Sexual Pleasure
Build Sexual Confidence
Heal from Trauma
Understand / Set Boundaries and Practice Consent
Explore Fantasies
Discuss Desires
Support for People in Recovery from Addictions

1. People with a History of Trauma

Sexual or Physical Trauma: Those who have experienced sexual or physical abuse may carry deep-seated emotional and physical responses in their bodies that affect their ability to feel safe in intimate situations.
Emotional Trauma: People with histories of emotional abuse or neglect may struggle with trust, vulnerability, or connecting deeply with others.

2. Individuals with Body Image Issues

Those who feel disconnected from or ashamed of their bodies often find somatic therapy empowering, as it helps them build a positive relationship with their physical self and foster self-acceptance.

3. Couples Experiencing Sexual or Emotional Disconnection

For couples facing issues with intimacy, lack of desire, or communication, somatic therapy can help bridge gaps by allowing both partners to connect with their emotions, communicate openly, and understand each other’s needs and boundaries in a nonjudgmental way.

4. People Dealing with Sexual Shame or Guilt

Individuals who grew up in environments where sex was stigmatized or seen as shameful may have difficulty fully embracing their sexual selves. Somatic therapy can help them uncover and process these feelings, leading to greater comfort with their sexuality.

5. Individuals with Boundaries and Co-Dependency Issues

Somatic therapy is helpful for those who struggle to set boundaries or who fall into patterns of co-dependency, as it teaches self-awareness and the importance of honoring personal needs and limits.

6. People Seeking Authentic Connection

Those wanting deeper, more authentic connections may benefit from somatic work, as it encourages them to explore vulnerability, honesty, and presence within relationships.

7. Individuals Experiencing Difficulty with Desire and Arousal

People who struggle with low libido, difficulty experiencing arousal, or physical responses during intimacy can find somatic approaches beneficial. These methods help clients reconnect with sensation and desire, often uncovering underlying factors that impact arousal.

8. Those Working to Heal Relationship Patterns

Somatic therapy can help those who repeatedly experience negative relationship patterns, such as attracting unavailable partners, staying in unhealthy relationships, or struggling with jealousy. It allows individuals to understand these patterns at a body-based level and to develop new, healthier responses.

9. People Exploring Their Sexual Identity or Preferences

For individuals curious about their sexual identity, orientation, or preferences, somatic therapy provides a nonjudgmental space to explore desires, boundaries, and what genuinely feels right for them.

10. People on a Personal Growth Journey

Somatic therapy can be a powerful tool for anyone committed to self-discovery, authenticity, and growth. It helps individuals become more attuned to their inner worlds, empowering them to live more fulfilling, grounded lives.

Welcome to Your Relationship Laboratory

What to Expect:

In our intimate container of sessions, we'll create a unique space where we explore and understand how we relate to one another. As we build intimacy, I will be tracking my own reactions, while sharing them with you gently and constructively on behalf of your growth, and mine.

Learning Through Experience:

Experience is the most powerful teacher. While embodiment is a popular topic, its true impact is felt through practice, not just discussion. By directly experiencing vulnerability, safety, arousal, loving connection, and freedom from shame, you'll build the confidence to enhance your intimate life.

Tailored to Your Needs:

I offer a holistic framework for understanding and working with trauma from a body-centered perspective. You will gain practical tools to help you access the innate wisdom that guides the healing process for yourself. Our approach is centered around what genuinely works for you and your loved ones. Using the Somatica® Method, we will help you and your partner find authentic expression, discover your unique erotic blueprint, and communicate effectively. Together, we'll explore the vast possibilities of human intimacy, activate your primal energies, and integrate them into your life. Guided by the Somatica® Method, our coaching focuses on deepening connections through embodied self-awareness and effective communication. Join us to cultivate deeper, more fulfilling relationships and embrace a more vibrant life.

When it comes to developing relationship skills, there is no better way than to practice with another person.

I will create a safe, caring, patient environment for you to learn practical tools for intimacy.

Ready For True Connection?

...without all the anxiety and overthinking?

Dissociate from or suppress your feelings.
Steamroll your capacity so that you can be productice or helpful.
Compromise your boundaries because you don't want to disappoint others.

Beyond that, you're so busy that you rarely even think to center your pleasure.

You rush through sex and self pleasure
You feel a bit numb down there and sometimes you push yourself to endure sex that doesn't feel good because you want to please your partner, or just get it over with.
You feel ashamed or dirty for desiring sex and intimacy.

If any of this resonates, you're in the right place to clear away the shame and fear that is blocking you from expressing yourself and getting what you need and desire.

WHAT IS INTIMACY COACHING

A tailored, one-on-one somatic (body-based) coaching journey to integrate your emotional and erotic self as a pathway to self-healing, self-worth, and better sex and relationships. The goal of Sex and Intimacy Coaching is to help you better understand your emotional and erotic self so that you can feel mentally resilient, share more of yourself with others, have better sex, and feel happier and more secure in your relationships.

With embodied self-awareness and practice expressing yourself comes the ability to attune to and communicate your unique capacity, boundaries, emotional needs, and sexual desires so that you can create a deeper physical and emotional connection with your primary partner, lover(s), people you're dating, and everyone you want to feel closer to.

MY COACHING PROGRAM IS PERFECT FOR YOU IF...

You tend to have high expectations of yourself, which can cause you to override your capacity and boundaries and

put your feelings and desires on hold, leaving you feeling empty and disconnected.

You struggle to honestly express your feelings and needs, and when you do, you often don’t feel heard. You’ve had

partners get defensive, shut down or even trivializes you.

You have some fear around emotional intimacy. (I know, baring yourself to another can feel really scary!) You know

that this block is holding you back from connection (even with friends and family). You’ve tried everything, f

rom therapy to yoga, and you’re ready to take it to the next level.

You worry that you’re not enough or too much – not good enough in bed and life, your body isn’t “hot” enough,

you’ll be found out and rejected, you’re too old, too broken, too complicated, too needy.

You’re experiencing sexual dysfunction or low desire and it’s causing some tension in your relationship. You’re

ready to (finally) prioritize and spice up your sex life, yet you don’t know where to start.

You struggle to express yourself sensually and sexually. You find it hard to let go and truly enjoy sex, and even

talking about sex can feel hard, yet you’re ready to step more fully into your sexuality and bring more variety into your sex life.

MY PROGRAM IS NOT FOR YOU IF...

You’re looking for quick hacks to improve your sex life or relationship.
You think your partner is the problem and you’re looking for ways to “fix” them.
You’re looking for sexological body work or sex work (Somatica is a clothing on method).

MY COACHING PROGRAM INCLUDES

A complimentary Discovery all (schedule HERE…) and debrief session (upon program completion). *** USE CALENDLY

Zoom coaching sessions (weekly, 2/month or 3/month, with flexibility during travel, etc)

Whatsapp, text or email support between sessions (you choose your preference).

Up to 2, 15-minute calls/month between sessions to work through realtime challenges you are facing in your dating life/relationship.

MY COACHING PROGRAM INCLUDES

A complimentary Discovery all (schedule HERE…) and debrief session (upon program completion). *** USE CALENDLY

Zoom coaching sessions (weekly, 2/month or 3/month, with flexibility during travel, etc).

Whatsapp, text or email support between sessions (you choose your preference).

Up to 2, 15-minute calls/month between sessions to work through realtime challenges you are facing in your dating life/relationship.